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Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Confidence Might be Your Best Fashion Statement

I'm not a big fan of Angelina Jolie but, I have to admit, that girl (or her stylist)  knows how to wear clothing.
Accidental Tourist Jolie
I don't think it matters what she wears--she carries it off with a simple elegance. I loved almost everything she wore in the Accidental Tourist. I can watch that movie over and over--just for her clothing.
Accidental Tourist Jolie 2
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The same can be said of Rene Russo in The Thomas Crown Affair. I loved everything she wore.
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When I try to define why I think these women look so elegant, I think it comes down to the confidence they exude. They don't care if you like what they are wearing. These women are confident in their own skin and it shows.
That's one of the things I like about getting older. I no longer fixate about what people think of me. I'm happy in my skin...it's taken me years to get to this point. That's not something you can airbrush.

Thursday, November 5, 2015

South Florida: What to Wear to the Office in November


A couple of years ago, I posted about what to wear in South Florida during the month of November in my Walking In Pretty Shoes blog. To date, that is one of the mostly widely searched posts on my blog


To help you in your quest for the perfect work outfits, here's a recap and update to that post.  To see what you would wear out and about during the day, and for more elegant evenings in November, head over to this Walking in Pretty Shoes blog post.
  • Hair: The humidity no longer plays a factor in our hairstyles in November. You can curl your hair and expect it to stay. Hallelujah!
  • Shoes: The rainy season is over so you can wear any type of shoes you want without them getting wet, but for a work environment, leave the flip flops and sandals at home. Think polished: pumps are the go-to shoe here.
  • Clothing: Think skirts and blouses, or shift dresses. It's still a little warm for pants but if you're not into dresses, go for a light-weight dress pant. Whatever you wear, refrain from showing cleavage or your stomach. Crop tops are a no-no.
  • Sweaters and jackets: You can't go wrong with having a blazer or sweater because offices and  restaurants are crazy with their air conditioning and you'll be reaching for it a couple of times a day. 
Here are some examples of appropriate November work attire in South Florida. These outfits will work for happy hour after work, as well.








I hope this helps you decide what to pack or wear for an office during this fabulous month in sunny South Florida. Florida girls, any other tips you would add?


Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Controlling Your Drama in the Workplace


Women are prone to expressing their emotions. In fact, we all know that keeping your emotions bottled up inside is not healthy and can lead to ulcers, heart attacks, and other nasty health disorders. While I totally encourage you to let those tears fly, I do not think that letting them loose at work will help your career one bit.

So what do you do when you feel your tears welling up and you're at work? This has happened to me on several occassions. In fact, I've given a presentation in a client's boardroom after socializing the ideas with senior management for a startup company. I went into the presentation consisting of 10 men and 1 woman with all my ducks lined up in a row, feeling like a powerful woman, 


only to have my presentation torn to shreds by the directors, vice-presidents, and senior managers. I can only liken it to "a pack of wolves coming after me" 


and feeling like "a deer in headlights."



I was floored because, in the previous few days, they all seemed like they were totally on board with what I was pitching. It's a terrifying and mortifying moment that I will never forget and I still shudder to this day.

So what do you do when this happens and all eyes are on you and the tears start to well up?


Jump Outside Your Body and Quickly Assess the Situation

I looked around the room and tried to figure out where it was coming from. I had already socialized my ideas, so I knew/thought that it couldn't be the presentation.

After spending the last few days with these senior execs in this start up company, I had seen the power plays that were going on between them. There were too many directors and vice-presidents in this company, and they were all afraid that they would be shown the door. By stepping outside my body, I could see that they were all challenging me to show the others that they were important and that their ideas were better than the consultant's (me) that had been brought in to overhaul their documentation. They felt threatened that I was introducing new ideas which, they felt, meant that what they had been doing in this area was wrong. They were afraid to be let go.

Fight or Flight?

Determining that outside forces were at work and that I was not the focal point of this fight, I still had to decide what to do. Everything in me want to run.

Running away can sometimes be a good thing as it allows you to regroup; however, in a presentation, it shows weakness and, as a woman, this doesn't help in the workplace and sets a precident in people's minds for how you respond in tough situations. Here's what I did:
  • I refrained from jumping in while the men fought with each other. As a woman, we need to suppress the urge to fix everything. It's not our job in the workplace, or it would be a company of one.
  • I stood up tall (all 5 foot, two inches of me), sucked in a big breath, and redirected the focus back to my points on my presentation. 
  • I asked for specifics about what they didn't like and why they didn't think it would work.
  • I had done my homework so I quoted statistics and their sources and asked them to cite the sources behind their opinions. This caused a few of them to go quiet.
  • I tried to see value behind their concerns and told them that I would give some thought into how we might encorporate a flavor of their opinions into the plan. Remember, with a response like this, they feel important, but you haven't committed to anything.
In effect, I took the focus away from me and didn't allow myself to be a victim. 

After I had the meeting back under control, I wrapped it up (earlier than I had planned) stating that I would discuss these points with my contact and we would decide the next steps. I thanked everyone for their time and walked out with my head held high and took an early lunch which allowed me to get my head back together before my afternoon meetings.

Going Forward Plans

After this setback, I took some time to decide if this company's good points outweighed its blatant power struggles and inside politics.

Once again, it's important to look at the big picture and realize that other forces might be at play.

Is the current situation a growing cancer, or is it an isolated incident? 

If it's an isolated incident, soldier on and continue the good work that you do. If it is part of a growing problem, decide whether it's worth the frustration it is causing you.  It might be time to move on to greener pastures.







Tuesday, May 19, 2015

The Grass is Greener on the Other Side of the Fence

 


I'm a consultant who owns my own business. I am successful and I am happy. No word of a lie, at least once a month someone comes to me for advice about going out on their own. They are usually tired of taking orders from someone else, or in fear of being let go from their position--they wonder if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. They see my success and muse, "If she can do it, I'm sure I can."  


Can you?


The short answer is yes, you can!  You can do anything you set your sights on.  All that stands between you and your goal is hard work and sacrifice. If you think your goals will magically fall into your lap, stay where you are.  But if you are willing to go out there and work, work, and then work some more, I promise you, the end result will have you feeling powerful, in control of your destiny, and happy.  

Today's the day to start planning a change in your life.   



Friday, January 30, 2015

Down But Not Out


You're going to survive. You're going to live, you're going to love, you're going to dance again.

JLO on Ellen
Talking about getting through the tough times

I have been battling the flu this week but I think I'm finally on the winning side. Yea! Living in Florida, it's been years since I've had the flu; however, I went to a very fun party on the Florida Intracoastal this past weekend. I brought home some good memories and a bug.  Oh well, I plan to be in fighting form next week.  

I hope you've had a great week and have accomplished some of your goals. For those of you who were hit by the snow storm, I hope you're shovelling your way out!

I happened to catch JLO on Ellen and wanted to share a tiny portion of it with you. I think it's wonderful when famous people open up and share their experiences with others. We often see other people in an unrealistic light--not realizing that they share the same doubts, fears, hurts, and trials that we do. JLO talked about the journey she is on and how her life fell apart after her divorce. She did some soul searching and came out of it a better person. 

The takeaway is: No matter what you're going through, you are strong, and you will make it. Her ending comment was what I shared in the opening quote.  "You're going to survive.  You're going to live, you're going to love, you're going to dance again."

Have a great weekend.




Friday, January 23, 2015

Wise Words from a Wise Lady

 

I hope you had an amazing week and that you accomplished great things. If you didn't, don't be too hard on yourself. Monday will be here soon enough and you can start fresh.

As we head into the weekend, here's some brain candy spoken by a very wise lady.



Monday, January 12, 2015

Organize a Little

Organization isn't about perfection. It's about efficiency, reducing stress & clutter, saving time & money, and improving your overall quality of life.
- Christina Scalise
Author

Did you know that there's actually an organization for getting organized?  I kid you not.  And they have declared January as National Get Organized Month.  
Who am I to argue with that?  Personally, I'm always frustrated when I can't find something. Trying to find that elusive item can instantly put me in a bad mood. So when I come across a great organzing tip that makes my life easier, I want to climb the highest mountain and share it with the world.  Now where did I put that mountain....

Here's a post that I wrote awhile back in 2012 on my Walking In Pretty Shoes blog. It is a great DIY idea for organizing your jewelry. It became very popular very quickly. I hope you enjoy it too.